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Love 2.0: when a strong chemistry fights back the danger of distance

Love

Di Michele Calamaio

<<What is love?>> was wondering Haddaway in one of his best songs recorded during the mid-90s. In the same way, the writer Robert Heinlein, with his famous quote, tried to give an answer: <<Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own>>. Happy and fulfilled with that? Of course not. Over centuries the basic concept of “love” has gone through several changes and millions of renovations, but has always kept the same shape: ability to bring happiness right where there was only emotional prison waiting to be set free from people’s feelings, greatness in the process of recognizing how easy would have been spreading out an hand ready to help out and strength in recovering conflict situations on the point of leading to an irremediable rift. But if on one side Heinlein carries on the fragile point of view of love, that goes around the importance of pursuing an happiness capable of breaking down cultural and social walls all over the world itself, on the other the Beatles have refreshed this idea throughout the decades with their revolutionary <<Love is all you need>>: its new concept has achieved an higher level on intelligence that has led to the enrichment of everyone’s cultural background, as much as emotional processes have been put more in practice, turning this theoretical phenomenon into a much more pragmatic one. So, how is the new modernization working? Simple! First step: getting over the problem of distance by using the new technological tools capable of recreating that atmosphere of “physical proximity”, even without losing that little bit of magic also needed when memory has a “loving” breakdown; step two: always keep each other heart’s in shape, in order to let long phone calls do their job and text messages benefit of the time spent for the loved ones. After all, everything looks like a big “shape sorter”: the more effort is put into a relationship, the more results will be pointed out at the end of it; and, if by chance, long-distance relationships have found the way out of “old times problems”, a great “thanks” must be surely given to technology.

Love 2.0 nowadays: bringing out an example that gives voice to the future

And thus, what’s the best part of nowadays society? The ability of putting easily in practice what the past has taught us over years of intellectual and social decadence and what the future is asking us to develop day by day: more opportunities for happiness, either way expressed in friendship or love. But what really impresses our coming up generations is the necessity to find a modern road that seems to appear irreparably abstract, but desperately needed: that technology that, indeed, allows love to jump onto an higher floor, to turn the tables around and build up that “2.0 spot” by now totally immune from that past. The perfect example given by this upcoming suggestion is offered by the loving story of Giuseppe and Markéta, a couple born from the Erasmus Experience and grown over the choice of entering this new world of love, challenging themselves firstly and winning over distance afterwards.

1. Giuseppe and Markéta, how did your love start?

G & M: Good question actually. Well, we were having our own Erasmus experience in Szeged, Hungary, and we were enjoying one of the many parties ESN usually organized for international students; you know, in order to be polite, you always go say hi to your faculty friends colleagues and, just by chance, we locked eyes with each other frequently until we started talking. Also, since we had friends in common, it was pretty usual for us to go out together and hang out: from that point on, we started dating far more often until we definitely became a couple, knowing how hard would have been to continue it after the end of the mobility period but also aware of how our love was stepping up day by day.

2. Is it still possible nowadays to start a long-distance relationship? If so, what are the advantages and disadvantages?

G & M: For sure nowadays is more possible than before, thanks to the new medias that always keep up with the times: even if we are far away from each other, indeed, through a simple Skype video call we can see each other and share every intimate moment we wish, or simply thanks to a Whatsapp call we can definitely keep in touch and hear from each other without even being charged. Could we have any better? I don’t think so. And what we also want to underline is the impact that love has had on our lives: you don’t plan to fall in love for someone, you don’t choose the person you want around you for the rest of your life but it just happens, randomly, and you can’t do anything else except admitting to yourself that maybe “love at first sight” might exist, even when long-distance relationship takes place. Probably the worst disadvantage of this case is the fact that this love remains “intangible” for the entire duration of this technological approach, while, instead, it might need a bit more of pragmatism in stronger feelings like supporting your partner after an hard day or simply caring about your lover with an ordinary hug that would totally make his day. However, on the other side of the coin sharing traditions, cultures, food and different ways of living put couples like ours even closer and represent a big advantage: the pleasure of discovery grows bigger little by little and everything becomes more intense after a while, since we wouldn’t have “boring periods” between our short visits.

3. Are you guys planning a future together? In this kind of relationship, must you be more realistic or you’re “allowed to dream” thanks to modern technologies?

G & M: Yes, we are surely planning to have a future together and I can also add that, in this kind of relationship, there is much more “freedom” in allowing us to dream: no limits, no barriers, no walls put in between us, since we don’t know anything about our future, which basically means taking out only the best part of it without regrets and not living from day to day without a goal. So, the only thing left for the ones who live the same situation as ours is waiting: you can hope to go through hard moments, you can wish to do your best when time seems to be up but you must dream, you must keep it up, you must fight for your beliefs, even when they only look so far away, while they are much closer instead.

30 marzo 2017 0 commenti

Cultura Teatro

Amleto Fx ha due notifiche e una nuova richiesta d’amicizia

scritto da Roberta Magliocca

Saracinesca alzata ad Officina Tetaro in questo primo primo weekend di Aprile.

In scena, Amleto Fx di e con Gabriele Paolocà, collaborazione alla regia Michele Altamura e Gemma Carbone

Se per un Amleto classico, con tutta la solennità che un testo di questo calibro possiede, c’è un pubblico che ben sa cosa aspettarsi, in quanto opera tra le più conosciute al mondo, per Amleto Fx c’è una platea che assiste al nuovo, che sia un linguaggio o una musica o un atteggiamento, pur riconoscendo sulla scena tutti gli squarci della storia che hanno fatto dell’Amleto la grandezza che il passato ci tramanda.

C’è Ofelia, ci sono Rosencrantz e Guildenstern, c’è una madre e uno zio, c’è il fantasma del padre, c’è Orazio.

E di certo vi stupireste se il suicidio di Ofelia avvenisse davanti all’ obiettivo di uno smartphone, sarebbe assurdo se la madre di Amleto lo chiamasse via skype da una casa di villeggiatura, sicuramente non credereste alle parole di Orazio che invita – attraverso una chat di Facebook – Amleto ad una festa dove ubriacarsi e farsi come ranocchi.

E il fantasma? Un video dimenticato nella cartella documenti sul desktop di un Mac.

La storia c’è, non fraintendetemi, la storia c’è. Ma c’è anche un punto di incontro tra quello che fu è quello che è, i sentimenti forti e ineluttabili che furono – sono – saranno, pur mutando cieli e musiche, abiti e personaggi.

La solitudine di una depressione che altro non è se non manifesta responsabilità di un qualcosa che va rimesso in ordine, dopo un passato che ci ha lasciato un gran caos senza logica. E le nostre colpe derivano proprio da un passato da risistemare.

Perchè se Amleto deve vendicare il padre, noi oggi ci troviamo a dover mettere in ordine un mondo che ci hanno consegnato malconcio e di cui dovremmo – chissà perchè – sentirne tutte le responsabilità. Un mondo che ci vuole tanto veloci, ma tanto condannabili in quanto i mezzi – tecnologici – che usiamo per stare al passo, sono ritenuti così di basso profilo da renderci fannulloni, scansafatiche, choosy.

Una mente geniale ha partorito la contaminazione. Un attore che – da solo sulla scena – attraverso il linguaggio nel corpo ci ha portato in mille mondi stando chiusi tra le quattro pareti di una stanza, ci ha presentato tanti e più personaggi con soli due occhi e un solo corpo che nella sua magistrale complessità, ha lasciato a noi la semplicità del solo cambio d’abito.

A saracinesca abbassata, come spesso accade ad Officina Teatro, ci siamo fermati a parlare con l’attore e l’aiuto regista. Uno splendido scambio di idee.

Finalmente muore la vecchia generazione, è stato il mio pensiero a voce alta, finalmente tutti i grandi della musica, della scrittura e del teatro stanno finendo fisicamente, lasciandoci lo spazio per esprimere un mondo nostro, la rivisitazione di un passato che vuoi o non vuoi non c’è più. E’ il nostro tempo, lasciatecelo vivere, non ci tenete incatenati “ai classici che non si toccano”, ai grandi nomi dei secoli scorsi. Abbiamo i nostri nomi da scrivere, oggi, se solo ci permetteste di costruire il nostro mondo, lasciandoci liberi e svincolati dalla responsabilità di contemplare il vostro di mondo, di rimettere ordine nel vostro casino, di rattoppare le vostre mancanze.

Ecco perchè a chi ieri ha manifestato il suo fastidio scaturito da termini quali “facebook, skype, smartphone” all’interno di un teatro durante la rappresentazione di un classico, consiglierei – umilmente – di rivedere lo spettacolo oggi pomeriggio.

I classici non solo li si può toccare, ma li si DEVE toccare, ribaltandoli, guardarli da altri punti di vista. Ma soprattutto smettiamola di criticare il nostro mondo di oggi solo per sentirci intellettualmente a posto con la nostra coscienza.

Renderemo il nostro mondo un posto migliore solo percorrendo nuove strade in avanti, non venerando i percorsi battuti da altri. Altri che uomini erano, esattamente come noi uomini siamo.

Roberta Magliocca

3 aprile 2016 0 commenti